Jenny from Perth writes – my partner is the life of the party, women and men adore him. But at home, he gets angry at us for the silliest reasons and never nice words me or our kids, always putting us down. Should I stay or leave him?

Be blessed.

It's actually hard even though I adore my wife and our family. Why I have often asked myself? It makes no sense really. There's no one to ask.

I've read that decreasing testosterone can be a cause. I took some herbal remedy but only grew some man boobs. Little else seemed to change. The boobs did fade away after I finished the tablets.

Is it socially acceptable for individuals to wear clothing typically associated with the opposite gender? What are some reasons for or against this practice?

It's just that my mouth speaks before my brain thinks at random moments. My wife does remind me from time to time. I say sorry and yes dear frequently.

In no way am I saying that physical abuse is acceptable. Don't get me wrong on that. I also don't put anyone down because I love these people.

At some point you do need to find a quiet moment to have sensible chat with your man. Point out how his words are hurting you and the family. Ask him if he realises what's happening. That none of you are enjoying it. See what he says?

Have you ever had sex with your female cousin? How did it start?

Hello Jenny. A lot of men are like your man. I myself am similar although out of love I try and moderate myself.

So are we to be consigned to the kerb by the people who are supposed to love us? I can't understand the why of who I am at all.

Nothing is more important to me than my wife and family. I love them. To date my wife loves me enough to see the good in me rather than only the bad. I try for her.

How does someone start doing urban exploration?

Unless actual harm is occurring I'd ask you to stay. We men need our wives and families. Really we do.